Q. As far as relating to others is concerned, is it your expectations or theirs that cause blocks in the relationships?
A. It's my expectations... With one person I know, I have an expectation that I can have an intelligent conversation with her that has to do with my logical reality... Sometimes, I got SO frustrated listening to her stories... she insisted that she was in control of her life and independent. Yet, she is now wanting to settle an insurance claim and "get it over with"... so she can "get on with her treatment" for a hand injury. Most of the time I've known her, she has been on disability and/or in litigation or threatened litigation involving a variety of unrelated injuries.
For years, I had an expectation about how she "should" be handling her life. Of course, I realize now, it's not my business to judge how she is dealing with her life. It's my business to deal with my life and respect her right to make her own choices.
Q. I'm reading CWG and (of course) I have a question. God says "Judge not, then, the karmic path walked by another. Envy not success, nor pity failure, for you know not what is success or failure in the soul's reckoning." So, when I judge a friend to be a negative individual is that just what I am reflecting upon her actions? Is she only negative because I judge her to be so? Comments? Insights? Please. I'm a trifle confused.:)
A. I know your friend, and she is an individual who is on her own path... and when you relate to her with your expectations, you respond negatively to her behavior. Think about the people who have no problem with her being who she is... I know that for me, her attitude is abrasive and critical... and does not stimulate the kinds of FEELINGS I wish to have... God also says She communicates in feelings... so there is a message for me about being around her.
So my choice is to avoid being around her and people like her... and I can call that choice "judgement"... but I have no problem with her and those with a similar attitude being on the planet... I have no problem with her being your friend... I respect your right to choose your friends.
If I spent a lot of time around her, and a lot of energy either "trying to fix her" or complaining about her behavior, it would feel to me that THEN, I would be in judgement of her... THAT kind of behavior, to me, would be unGodlike. ...and that is MY opinion... not a fact.
Q. So, what you are saying (I think), is that her attitude is not negative but my response to her is that which is negative?
A. I think her attitude is a reflection of where she is and how she is experiencing her life. (AND how she is experiencing her life, according to CWG, is giving God the opportunity to experience mortality from her perspective... Though why She (God) would want to..... ahhh, nevermind.) She is being herself... and by being who she is, she also gives those in her life an opportunity to experience being around someone like her...
Remember: "What is the difference between feeling and emotion?"
Last updated August 30, 1998 by Serena.